Self-belief

So ladies and gents, it’s all a lot clearer to me now. This year is all about self-belief and moving through obstacles that prevent us believing in ourselves if we hope to manifest that which is in our hearts - and in that process opening to greater love and trust.

Last year was all about putting our ducks in a row, so to speak, clearing out dead wood, the stuff that was no longer working for us in our life, and being more aware of what we needed to keep and how that may inform our future.

I know many of you are up against your lack of self belief and how this prevents you doing things you’d like to do. I know this, not only because I have heard some of you talk about it, but also because I have had to look more honestly at this core belief and work through it to shift it , and I can see how the universe is trying to move us all through this, collectively.

It is in this way that things will change. And things need to change. But for things to change we have to change. Sometimes we see it the other way around, we think that we need to start by changing things externally, but this isn’t true, for things to truly change externally, without us pushing, then we need to make the internal change, and then things externally change effortlessly and we find a greater flow in our lives.

But first we have to do the work to move through whatever it is that is holding us back. And usually it is a core belief around our lack of goodness, or our lack of self, belief, or our inability to value ourselves, something that undervalues us and makes us lose confidence. These stick us and prevent us moving forward in our life. The silly thing is, we wouldn’t wish this on our children, and yet we let it happen to ourselves.

What I have discovered is that when we do look at these core beliefs that need shifting and actually do something about them - shift the thinking - then things really do start to change. When we start owning the person we are and valuing ourselves and our life experiences and all we know, then this helps us believe in ourselves a little more, and when that happens, we start to recognise that we are indeed loveable and then everything shifts, the internal and the external, and effortlessly too.

But the process itself is not easy, a dark night of the soul often comes upon us as we have outgrown the life we are leaving behind, we are feeling suffocated and know that things need to change, but there is a grieiving for the person we are leaving behind as much as there is a huge fear and resistance to taking a step forward into the big and scary unknown.

Who will we be if we let go of those thoughts? Well we won’t know until we do so, but I can assure you that it is worth the risk, that the hanging on to the old will not bring you any joy in the one term despite it’s feeling of safety and just sticks you in victimhood (“poor me, look at what’s happened to me mentality”).

At the end of the day we have one life and we have a choice in how we live it. We can continue to devalue ourselves and stop ourselves living our greatest and fullest life, or we can do something about it and look more honestly at what is sticking us and prevent us moving forwards in our life. Always there is a thought, because everything arises from the thought. Our body is a manifestation of our thinking and our mental response to our life experiences, the body keeps score after all.

But we have the opportunity every day to change this. We can lose ourselves in the dark night, take medication to further numb our pain, or we can own it, face it and sit into it. It is hard, I know from my own experience. Pain is hard to sit into. But the pain that comes from not moving forward, of not feeling of it, of not letting it be there and moving beyond it, is actually greater than the pain we are trying to avoid feeling in the first place.

It’s kind of crazy really what we will do to avoid feeling that pain, because we do create more in the process, just because we keep separating from, and denying aspects of our true self in the process. We have all had painful experiences in our life and we will do all we can never to feel that pain again. But unless we feel that pain and let it go, it will stay there, somewhere within us, eating away at us a being triggered from time to time as our soul tries to get us to look at it and let it go, heal from it, simply by no longer being scared of it.

At the end of the day, wee cannot avoid pain. Not really. Not if we want to live a life worth living. A full life. A life of deeper connection to heart and soul. And at some point we know we have to move through this old and trapped pain, the bits we couldn’t deal with at the time, the stuff that stops us truly opening ur heart to the world, of truly trusting, of truly walking our own unique path. This is alchemy. This is the spiritual journey towards greater soul connection.

I came across a great affirmation this week, which is so true and indeed helpful:

“I transform pain and suffering into a greater capacity to love”

I also came across this really helpful reading from a divine feminine book, which sums it up beautifully:

“When we are in the fires of suffering, it can be difficult to trust that gold is being forged. It can be hard to trust when we are in terrific pain that there is a process at work that will make us more authentic, more alive and infinitely freer.”

As I wrote, this is alchemy, this is integrating more soul into our existence. This is the process that opens us to greater love and this isn’t just love for others but love for ourselves. And when that happens, when we transmute our pain and suffering into love, then we believe in ourselves, we value ourselves and we respect ourselves and can move on. Things change. We change. our life changes. Our inner light shines brighter, we feel truly grateful to be alive, we love ourselves, we love others, we love the world. And with that our life opens and flows in ways we could never have previously imagined.

So if you are reading this and some of it resonates then it is time. I know I’m biased but there is absolutely no doubt that Reiki supports and indeed encourages this process of transforming our pain and suffering into love, not least because it is healing (it is the universal life force energy) but because by its very nature it assists us with our personal and spiritual development - it absolutely wants us to be whole. It also helps to provide us with the clarity to understand the nature of our patterning and the courage to do something about it.

You can do this. This is your year. This is your year to believe in yourself. To do the work on yourself to let go of anything that tells you that you are not good enough, that you are not loveable just as you are, that you are not the beautiful human being and soul that you absolutely are. All you have to do is have the intention to work only our lack of self belief and then be open to what comes into your orbit by way of people, books, treatments, courses and workshops…follow your heart…pay attention…

With love

Emma x